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THE SIDEWINDER - Life Ain't What It Used To Be

Like many other old guys, nowadays I find my mind more frequently drifting down nostalgic paths to those good old days when things were simpler and life for most of us was more fulfilling. It leads me to wonder if we, as an urban civilization, are evolving or devolving.

Maple Ridge -- photo from years gone by
Not that many decades ago, life out here in the suburbs meant that families with three kids probably lived in an affordable 1,200 square-foot, three-bedroom home with an unfinished basement on a large lot. I think it's an important distinction that we called it home, not just a place where we lived.  Some families called the same house their home for several generations without any need to build a bigger house.

As property values increased insanely, and more families were forced through economics and other circumstances to live in townhouses or apartments, fewer and fewer people thought of them as homes. It became just a place where they all lived but it wasn't really a home.

Nowadays, that same family with three kids would be looking for a 3,000 square-foot, four or five-bedroom house with a finished basement and a bonus room above the three-car garage on a postage stamp-sized lot.  Somewhere along the way, we slipped from being able to live our lives contentedly in those modest, smaller homes over to the dark side and the insane demands of today's lifestyle.

As our communities grew and the age of subdivisions and small lots emerged, it seems that more and more people from the city were attracted to home ownership, even if it required two incomes and commuting to keep up with the mortgage.

While both parents worked when it was their choice, the negative aspects of our expanding lifestyles didn't seem so drastic but that eventually changed and family life has suffered ever since.

Years ago it was commonplace to have a couple of fruit trees and a small vegetable garden on your own property. Some families even had a few chickens. We were able to some extent to be partly self sufficient but those days are long gone.  Small lots, huge houses and the requirement for two incomes has left the vast majority of people with no time, energy or space for even the tiniest vegetable garden or fruit trees and God forbid anyone who wants to raise a few of their own chickens.

In our old neighbourhood, we knew everybody, their dogs, their kids and what they did for a living. People chatted over their fences. We even communicated without cell phones and computers and we didn't hold block parties to get acquainted because we already knew each other.

Nowadays there seems to be such a lack of neighbourliness even in our local
stores. Years ago, when we did our weekly grocery shopping , we went to neighbourhood stores where we knew the owners. Almost nobody owned a freezer but many of us rented frozen food lockers from the local butcher.

We knew our local store owners, many of whom even carried some of their customers on credit. It was no surprise when they became our friends and town leaders.

Many people view mega malls and sprawling subdivisions as progress. That might be true but, at what cost?

In the past decade or so, in Maple Ridge and Pitt Meadows, we have witnessed the loss of small community halls, neighbourhood schools, small local stores and many other qualities which made our communities far more livable than what they have since become.

We have lost so many of those neighbourhood values and have devolved into a place we live ... but it isn't home as we once knew it.

Sandy Macdougall (aka the Sidewinder) lives in Maple Ridge and is a contributor to "Thoughts on BC Politics and More"


  1. Rural culture is being eroded. Protecting our ecosystems through the world view that the earth is mans garden, not to be turned into a sprawling wasteland, has eluded many; as we stack ourselves on top of one another, corralled into urban cages, to go insane.


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